If you’ve been through a separation or divorce, you’ll know how easy it is to replay the past on repeat.
The “what ifs.” The “if onlys.” The conversations you wish had gone differently.

I know this place well. And if you’re there right now, I want you to know — it’s completely human. When we go through painful experiences, our minds cling to the story, because it feels safer to hold onto what we already know rather than face the uncertainty of what comes next.

But here’s the thing: living in the past will keep you stuck in the past.

At some point, you have to decide to press pause on the replays and press play on your future.

When life feels like it’s spinning out of control, it’s easy to get caught up in everything that isn’t going the way you hoped. Divorce, separation, or even a big life transition can make you feel powerless — like no matter what you do, the ground keeps shifting beneath your feet.

I want to share something that has helped me, time and time again, in my own journey: learning to focus on what you can control.

There’s something about spring that calls us to clear things out. Closets get tidied, windows are opened wide, and we find ourselves dusting off forgotten corners. It’s a ritual of making space — letting go of the old so something fresh can come in. 🌿

But what about the parts of us that need clearing?

After separation or divorce, the weight we carry isn’t just in our homes. It’s in our hearts. The “what ifs,” the unanswered questions, the sadness, the anger. These unprocessed emotions take up space inside us — and just like a cluttered room, they can keep us from moving forward.

That’s where journaling becomes such a powerful tool. ✨

It’s a kind of spring cleaning for the soul. By putting words on paper, you make sense of tangled feelings, create clarity, and gently open up room for renewal.

Parenting is rarely straightforward — and parenting after separation can bring challenges you never imagined. There are tough conversations, sudden changes of plans, children acting out their emotions, and moments where it feels like you’re carrying the world on your shoulders.

It’s easy to see these moments as setbacks. But what if they could also be opportunities?

Just like spring transforms landscapes, you have the power to transform how you view parenting challenges — and in doing so, you can change the experience for both you and your children

Spring is such a beautiful reminder that growth takes patience, care, and consistency. 🌱

Think of a garden: before the blossoms appear, the soil must be prepared, seeds must be planted, and those tender shoots need to be watered and tended. Neglect it, and weeds will take over. Nurture it, and you’ll see colour, balance, and beauty emerge.

Co-parenting is much the same.

After separation, communication with your former partner can feel like rocky soil — full of old hurts, misunderstandings, and frustrations. But with the right care, it’s possible to cultivate a healthier environment where your children can thrive, just like a garden coming into bloom.

After separation, life can sometimes feel heavy with “to-dos.” Court dates, paperwork, schedules, and the endless juggle of parenting… joy can easily slip to the bottom of the list.

But here’s the thing: joy isn’t a luxury. It’s a lifeline.

Especially for families going through change, sprinkling simple, happy moments into the everyday can bring stability, connection, and a reminder that laughter still belongs in your home. And what better time to invite joy back in than spring — a season of fresh air, blossoms, and sunshine that calls us outdoors?

You don’t need a big budget or fancy plans to create memories with your children. In fact, it’s often the simplest experiences that leave the deepest imprint. Let’s talk about a few easy, affordable ways to reconnect with joy this season. 🌸

There’s something about the first warm breeze of spring that feels like an invitation.
Windows open, curtains fluttering, the air scented with jasmine or freshly cut grass… it’s as though nature whispers, “It’s time to begin again.”

If you’re walking through the tender season after a separation, you may feel anything but renewed. Maybe your days feel heavy, or you’re not sure how to piece together this new version of your life. I want you to know: that’s okay. Renewal doesn’t happen overnight. Just like spring, it unfolds gently, little by little.

When I moved from Germany to Australia, I packed everything I thought I would need.

My paperwork. My essentials. My “just in case” items (far too many).
And a version of myself who was used to having everything in order.

I liked plans. I liked knowing what came next. I liked control.

But very quickly, I learnt something that changed me—
You can have the best-laid plans in the world, and still find yourself standing on a beach, crying into a chai latte, wondering why nothing feels the way it is “supposed” to.

Letting go was not on my checklist. But it became my biggest teacher.

And if you are going through a separation, a move, or a major life transition—
You might already feel it too: that tug-of-war between holding it all together and wanting to just exhale.

This blog is for that version of you. The one standing in the messy middle.
Let us talk about why letting go—of control, of perfection, of timelines—might be the very thing that sets you free.

I will never forget the first time I stepped off the plane in Australia.

The light was different.
The accents were different.
Even the air smelled unfamiliar—salty and warm, wrapped in something wild and wide open.

I had moved halfway across the world from Germany, leaving behind family, friends, routines, language… the identity I had known for most of my life.

And although I had chosen this change, it still shook me.
I felt like a grown-up beginner. Everything was unfamiliar. And as much as I loved the adventure, I also had moments where I missed what was known and comfortable.

But here is what I learnt from that experience—

There is a quiet ache that often follows separation.
Not just the loss of the relationship—but the way your friendships start to shift too.

The couple friends fade.
The invites slow down.
The group chats go quiet.
And in the middle of that silence, you might find yourself asking—who do I belong with now?

As a divorce coach, I hear this all the time. It is one of the most unexpected parts of the healing process—realising that your social world might need a complete replanting. But I also want to remind you of this…..