Embracing change...
How to stay positive when everything feels uncertain
I will never forget the first time I stepped off the plane in Australia.
The light was different.
The accents were different.
Even the air smelled unfamiliar—salty and warm, wrapped in something wild and wide open.
I had moved halfway across the world from Germany, leaving behind family, friends, routines, language… the identity I had known for most of my life.
And although I had chosen this change, it still shook me.
I felt like a grown-up beginner. Everything was unfamiliar. And as much as I loved the adventure, I also had moments where I missed what was known and comfortable.
But here is what I learnt from that experience—
Change always comes with a choice: resist or respond.
Whether it is moving countries, going through a separation, starting over in a new home, or simply reimagining your life after a big transition—how you relate to change matters more than the change itself.
So let us talk about how to embrace it. Gently. Realistically. And with just enough positivity to keep moving forward.
1. Feel what you feel—without setting up camp there
Change, even when it is positive, often comes with grief.
I grieved the German winters, the rhythm of my language, the tiny comforts of home like my favourite bakery or the sound of my grandmother’s voice across the hall.
You might be grieving the feeling of being part of a couple.
Or your family as it once was.
Or even just the version of you that felt certain.
That is okay.
✨ Positivity does not mean denying what hurts.
✨ It means holding the hard things without letting them define you.
Try this:
Let yourself cry and laugh in the same day.
Let yourself miss what was and reach for what is next.
This is the paradox of growth. You are allowed to feel both.
2. Create rituals of grounding
One of the things I missed most in those early months in Australia was the rhythm of my old life.
So I created new ones.
A morning walk by the water.
A weekend farmers’ market.
A journal I wrote in every Sunday night.
These little rituals grounded me when everything else felt foreign.
Try this:
Create a “ritual anchor” for your day. It can be as simple as:
Lighting a candle each morning while you set an intention
Journalling one sentence every night: “Today I handled change by…”
Walking barefoot on grass to come back into your body
Tiny rituals remind your nervous system that you are safe—even when your circumstances are changing.
3. Anchor into possibility, not permanence
When I moved, there were moments I would think, Is this my life now? Forever?
It felt so big. So final.
But life rarely stays the same for long.
✨ Your current situation is not your forever.
✨ It is a chapter. And you get to help write the next one.
Instead of asking, “How will I survive this?”, ask:
“What might this change make possible?”
That is where the energy shifts.
4. Surround yourself with possibility thinkers
I will be honest—some people in my life could not understand why I had moved to the other side of the world. They questioned it, doubted it, or stayed stuck in what used to be.
But others? They reminded me of what I was gaining.
They helped me stay anchored to the why, even when the how felt hard.
The same goes for you.
Ask yourself:
Who around me lifts me up when I speak about my future?
Who do I need less of in my ears while I build something new?
Find the people who believe in fresh starts. They will help you believe in yours.
5. Choose your lens
You cannot control all the changes life throws at you.
But you can choose the story you tell yourself about them.
After a while, I stopped saying, “This is hard because I do not know how to do it.”
And started saying, “This is hard because I am learning how to do something new.”
That shift is everything.
Try this:
Each time you feel stuck or overwhelmed by change, say:
✨ “I’m not stuck. I’m becoming.”
✨ “I’m not broken. I’m in transition.”
✨ “This is part of how I rebuild.”
6. Let joy have a seat, even now
One of the kindest things you can do for yourself during change is to make room for joy. Not when things are fixed. Not when the divorce is final or the house is sorted. But now.
Joy is not a reward.
It is a resource.
Invite it in by:
Wearing the outfit that makes you feel like yourself again
Dancing to a playlist from your teenage years
Letting the sun hit your skin while you drink tea slowly
Laughing at a silly show or TikTok without guilt
You are allowed to feel joy even when not everything makes sense.
7. Remember the version of you who adapted before
This one is big.
You have already done hard things.
You have already adapted to change—maybe more than once.
Coming to a new country taught me that we are more resilient than we think.
That identity is not lost—it is remade.
That belonging can be created—slowly, intentionally, one brave choice at a time.
And I promise—if you stay open, the new you that emerges will be stronger, wiser, and even more rooted in who you really are.
Need a little extra support?
If you are navigating separation or life after it, and change feels overwhelming, please know you do not have to go through it alone.
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You can embrace change and still be gentle with yourself. you can honour what was and still reach for what could be. and you can do both—with support.
With love and lived experience,
Kerstin 🤍
Re-Charge Divorce Coaching and Retreats