You’ve probably heard the saying: “Money follows mindset.”
And while it might sound like something you’d read on a motivational poster, there’s a deeper truth behind it — especially after separation.

Because the way you think about money directly affects the way you use it, save it, and trust yourself with it.

After a separation, your finances can feel fragile — like every decision carries more weight than before. Suddenly, you’re not just managing money; you’re managing fear, uncertainty, and a future that looks different than you imagined.

But here’s the good news: financial freedom doesn’t begin with spreadsheets or bank balances.
It begins in your mind.

You know that moment after separation when the dust begins to settle — but instead of relief, you feel this quiet, heavy uncertainty?
You’re standing in your kitchen, coffee in hand, staring out the window wondering, “Where do I even start?”

I get it.
After years of shared bills, shared decisions, and shared dreams, unravelling the financial side of things can feel like trying to untangle a necklace that’s been in the drawer for too long. Every time you think you’ve made progress, another knot appears.

It’s human nature to compare ourselves to others.
We look at what someone else has — their career, their family life, their income — and we measure our own progress against theirs.

But here’s the hard truth: comparison is one of the fastest ways to rob yourself of joy. It keeps your focus on what you don’t have, instead of what you’re building.

If you’ve been through a separation or divorce, those comparisons can feel even louder. They seem so happy in their new relationship. He’s already bought a house. She never looks stressed.

Sound familiar?

I want to remind you of something important: your journey is yours. And the moment you stop comparing it to someone else’s, you give yourself the freedom to walk your path with clarity and strength.

Let’s be honest — co-parenting isn’t always smooth sailing.

Even with the best intentions, there will be days when it feels hard. When communication breaks down, when emotions run high, when the plans you agreed on suddenly don’t go the way you expected.

If you’re in that season right now, I want you to know this: you’re not alone, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It just means you’re human, navigating something that is one of the most challenging dynamics there is.

What I’ve learned — both personally and through walking alongside so many clients — is that when co-parenting gets hard, the most powerful thing you can do is shift your focus.

If you’ve been through a separation or divorce, you’ll know how easy it is to replay the past on repeat.
The “what ifs.” The “if onlys.” The conversations you wish had gone differently.

I know this place well. And if you’re there right now, I want you to know — it’s completely human. When we go through painful experiences, our minds cling to the story, because it feels safer to hold onto what we already know rather than face the uncertainty of what comes next.

But here’s the thing: living in the past will keep you stuck in the past.

At some point, you have to decide to press pause on the replays and press play on your future.

When life feels like it’s spinning out of control, it’s easy to get caught up in everything that isn’t going the way you hoped. Divorce, separation, or even a big life transition can make you feel powerless — like no matter what you do, the ground keeps shifting beneath your feet.

I want to share something that has helped me, time and time again, in my own journey: learning to focus on what you can control.

There’s something about spring that calls us to clear things out. Closets get tidied, windows are opened wide, and we find ourselves dusting off forgotten corners. It’s a ritual of making space — letting go of the old so something fresh can come in. 🌿

But what about the parts of us that need clearing?

After separation or divorce, the weight we carry isn’t just in our homes. It’s in our hearts. The “what ifs,” the unanswered questions, the sadness, the anger. These unprocessed emotions take up space inside us — and just like a cluttered room, they can keep us from moving forward.

That’s where journaling becomes such a powerful tool. ✨

It’s a kind of spring cleaning for the soul. By putting words on paper, you make sense of tangled feelings, create clarity, and gently open up room for renewal.

Parenting is rarely straightforward — and parenting after separation can bring challenges you never imagined. There are tough conversations, sudden changes of plans, children acting out their emotions, and moments where it feels like you’re carrying the world on your shoulders.

It’s easy to see these moments as setbacks. But what if they could also be opportunities?

Just like spring transforms landscapes, you have the power to transform how you view parenting challenges — and in doing so, you can change the experience for both you and your children

Spring is such a beautiful reminder that growth takes patience, care, and consistency. 🌱

Think of a garden: before the blossoms appear, the soil must be prepared, seeds must be planted, and those tender shoots need to be watered and tended. Neglect it, and weeds will take over. Nurture it, and you’ll see colour, balance, and beauty emerge.

Co-parenting is much the same.

After separation, communication with your former partner can feel like rocky soil — full of old hurts, misunderstandings, and frustrations. But with the right care, it’s possible to cultivate a healthier environment where your children can thrive, just like a garden coming into bloom.

After separation, life can sometimes feel heavy with “to-dos.” Court dates, paperwork, schedules, and the endless juggle of parenting… joy can easily slip to the bottom of the list.

But here’s the thing: joy isn’t a luxury. It’s a lifeline.

Especially for families going through change, sprinkling simple, happy moments into the everyday can bring stability, connection, and a reminder that laughter still belongs in your home. And what better time to invite joy back in than spring — a season of fresh air, blossoms, and sunshine that calls us outdoors?

You don’t need a big budget or fancy plans to create memories with your children. In fact, it’s often the simplest experiences that leave the deepest imprint. Let’s talk about a few easy, affordable ways to reconnect with joy this season. 🌸