When you’re raising children after separation, the word “security” takes on a whole new meaning.

It is no longer just about bills and bank balances.
It’s about keeping the school routine smooth, making sure the fridge is full, covering sports fees, and still having enough emotional bandwidth left at the end of the day to be present.

That is a lot for one person to carry.

If you’re finding yourself standing at the edge of your property settlement wondering how you’re going to make it all work—financially, emotionally, and practically—please take a deep breath.

💡 This is not the end of your old life. It is the beginning of your new one.
And that new life can be strong, steady, and peaceful—not just for you, but for your children too.

You’re already carrying so much—navigating life as a single parent, figuring out finances, managing the emotions of your separation, and most of all, trying to keep things as stable as possible for your kids.

And then, when it comes to dividing assets, the world tells you, “Prepare for battle.”

It’s exhausting.

And here’s what I want you to hear today:

💡 Choosing an amicable path isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.

There’s a moment in the aftermath of separation when the outside world seems to slow down, but inside… everything still feels a little unsteady.

The legal side might be underway, the logistics somewhat settled, the children slowly adjusting—but you’re left asking:

💭 Who am I now?
💭 Where do I go from here?

It’s a question I hear often—and it’s one I want to help you sit with, gently and honestly.

Feeling prepared gives you power.

You might be navigating a whirlwind of emotions right now—uncertainty, grief, overwhelm, maybe even relief—and trying to think about spreadsheets and paperwork might feel like the last thing you want to do.

I was speaking with a woman recently—strong, and, from the outside, seemingly confident. But as we talked about her next steps in life after separation, she said: “I don’t know if I can do this. What if I make the wrong choice? What if I fail on my own?”

I remember a moment with a client—someone who had spent years pouring everything into her marriage, her children, and her responsibilities. She was the kind of woman who held everything together, who never let anyone see the cracks.

I remember sitting across from a client—strong, capable, and doing everything she could to keep life moving forward after her separation. But as we talked, she looked down at her hands and whispered, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”

And my heart sank.

Life after separation is full of changes — some expected, others completely overwhelming. It’s easy to get caught up in the stress of it all, focusing on the practical to-do lists, the co-parenting schedules, and the emotional weight of it all. But in the midst of it, there’s something incredibly powerful you might not even realise you’re doing.

I still remember walking into my first International Women’s Day event years ago. The room was filled with strong, inspiring women—women who had overcome challenges, built businesses, raised families, and supported one another along the way. There was an undeniable energy in the room, a sense of connection and empowerment that I had never felt before.

Life after separation can feel like a juggling act. You’re balancing parenting, co-parenting schedules, work, finances, and your own emotions — all while trying to create stability for your family. It’s no wonder you might feel like you’re running on empty.