Riding the emotional rollercoaster…

Without losing yourself

There’s a moment that happens for so many clients I work with…

They’ve made the decision. The relationship is over. The logistics are starting to fall into place. Maybe they’ve even had a few good days.

And then — out of nowhere — wham.
A tidal wave of emotion hits.

Grief. Anger. Guilt. Loneliness. Fear. Hope. Regret. Relief.
All tumbling over each other like waves in a storm.

And the first thing they ask me is:
“Why am I still feeling like this?”
“Shouldn’t I be over it by now?”
“Why does it change every single day?”

Here’s what I tell them — and maybe you need to hear it, too:
💬 There is no straight line to healing.
This process? It’s messy. It loops. It spirals. Some days you’ll feel strong, and other days you’ll feel like you’re back at square one.

You’re not broken. You’re just human.
And this rollercoaster? It’s completely normal.

The emotional crash isn’t a setback — it’s a signal

When we’re navigating separation, our minds try to make sense of a new identity, a new routine, and a new future. Meanwhile, our hearts are still trying to process everything we’ve just lost.

That tug-of-war creates friction. Emotional whiplash. One minute you’re proud of how far you’ve come — the next, you’re crying in the car because a song came on the radio.

It’s exhausting.

But it’s also a sign that your body and heart are trying to process.
To sort. To recalibrate. To find safety again.

And that means — even if it doesn’t feel like it — your healing is happening.

Try this clarity exercise when the emotions get too loud

One simple, powerful way to find calm inside the emotional chaos is to pause and make space for what’s really going on underneath it all.

Here’s how:

📝 Grab a notebook, a pen, and 10 quiet minutes.

Then, write down every emotion you’re feeling right now. Big or small. Shameful or petty. Confusing or obvious. Just let it pour out — no editing, no judgment.

Some examples:

• I feel resentful that he seems fine.

• I feel guilty for wanting space from the kids.

• I feel scared I’ll never trust anyone again.

• I feel jealous of other couples.

• I feel sad that I have to do this alone.

• I feel ashamed that I stayed so long.

• I feel angry. Just… angry.

Once you’ve written it all down, take a deep breath.
Then circle the three emotions that have the tightest grip on you right now.

These are the ones calling for your attention. The ones asking to be seen, understood, and released.

You don’t have to fix them. Just notice them. That alone is powerful.

Why this helps

When emotions swirl around in your mind, they grow. They multiply. They feel unmanageable.

But when you name them, write them down, and gently choose the ones that need your care the most — you stop spinning. You step off the emotional rollercoaster, even if just for a moment.

And that moment? That breath of clarity?
That’s where healing begins.

You don’t have to ride the rollercoaster alone

This isn’t about perfection. This is about presence.

If you’re navigating the emotional highs and lows of separation, please know you don’t have to hold it all together — and you don’t have to fall apart either.

At Re-Charge, we’ve created spaces where you can safely unpack it all — through Divorce Recovery Retreats, and courses designed for someone just like you.

Your emotions aren’t too much.
You are not too much.
You’re doing beautifully, even when it feels like a mess.

And we’re right here, walking beside you.

With love,
The Re-Charge Team