Rewriting the story you tell yourself about money after separation

There is a moment after separation where money stops being practical
and starts being personal.

It is no longer just about bank accounts or numbers on a page.
It becomes a story you tell yourself about who you are now.

“I am bad with money.”
“I should have seen this coming.”
“I cannot do this alone.”

I hear these sentences every single week.
And I want you to know something straight away.

Those thoughts are not facts.
They are stories formed in moments of overwhelm.

When your inner story quietly holds you back

After separation, confidence often takes a hit.
Not because you are incapable but because the ground beneath you has shifted.

You might avoid opening emails.
Put off financial decisions.
Tell yourself you will deal with it later.

And before you know it, the story becomes reinforced.

“I knew I could not do this.”
“I knew I was not good at this.”

But here is what I have learned, both personally and professionally:

Confidence is not something you either have or do not have.
It is something you build by taking small, brave steps forward.

My own moment of stepping outside my comfort zone

Over the past few months, I have had to rewrite my own internal stories in a big way.

I am an introvert.
I like depth, quiet conversations, and meaningful work behind the scenes.

So when I agreed to write a deeply personal chapter in Emotional Alchemy, I knew I was pushing myself.

Then came the next stretch.
Recording a podcast with Sara Davison.
And then saying yes to going live internationally for the book launch of Emotional Alchemy.

Every part of me wanted to say, “This is not my thing.”
But I also knew that growth does not happen inside the comfort zone.

I did not wait until I felt confident (maybe I should have?).
I moved forward with the support from Sara Davison and our publisher Top Talent Agency, a bit of preparation and a willingness to try.

And that is exactly how financial confidence is built too.

The most common money stories after separation

Here are the stories I hear most often:

“I am bad with money.”
“I cannot do this on my own.”
“I will make the wrong decision.”
“I should already understand this.”

These stories feel true when you are tired, emotional, and overwhelmed.
But they are not permanent.

They are simply outdated narratives that no longer serve you.

How to consciously create a new financial story

Rewriting your money story does not require you to become a finance expert.
It requires curiosity instead of judgement.

Try this shift:

“I am bad with money”
becomes
“I am learning how money works for me now”

“I cannot do this alone”
becomes
“I am allowed to have support while I learn”

“I will get this wrong”
becomes
“I can take one step at a time and adjust as I go”

This is not positive thinking.
This is grounded self-leadership.

Why this matters more than you think

When your inner story changes, your actions change.

You ask questions.
You seek clarity.
You make decisions from a place of calm instead of fear.

That is where real confidence comes from.

The same way I showed up to write my chapter
Speak on the podcast
And step into an international launch

Not because it was easy
But because it aligned with the next version of me

You can do the same with money.

If you are ready to rewrite your next chapter

If separation has left you doubting yourself financially, I want you to hear this clearly:

You are capable.
You are allowed to learn.
And you do not have to do this alone.

Inside Emotional Alchemy, now available to buy, you will find real stories from people who chose growth over fear and clarity over avoidance. I am incredibly proud to be one of the contributing authors, and to share how small courageous steps can lead to powerful transformation.

If you would like practical guidance alongside emotional support, you can also explore our courses, free resources, or book a strategy call with me through the website.

And if you are ready to take the next practical step with calm, clarity, and confidence, our Property Settlement Course officially launches on 26th March 2026 — designed to help you understand your options, feel empowered with your finances, and move forward without feeling overwhelmed.

You are not starting from scratch.
You are starting from experience.

And the story you tell yourself about money from here
is entirely yours to write.